Mar 14
I think he's just stressed, but what do I say?
portal.nnkl.comLast night he said he was hoping to get on with work today. This eve' i text him & asked if 'work's happened yet?' (we have a ridiculous-procrastination joke) and he said 'no, still puttin it off'...I then made another in-joke of it only being like 'erm 2-days left!'...I realise that maybe wasn't the best supportive thing to say...as he was prolly feeling guilty about not sticking to his plans already (but thats like usual!).
He then replied 'stop saying that!..its hard enough trying to work without you making it sound more hopeless than it actually is'...I thought: I wasn't allowed to joke? :P
...I then said 'im sorry, but you can't give up! you just gotta do the best with what you got & get motivated somehow, u'll feel better once when you'r nearer the hand in'...he then replied 'I'll feel better once I can do work without feeling s**t' ...and put the usual x's on the end.
I then left it as 'sorry. I was just trying to help put things in perspective & maybe help you not procrastinate. I wont say anymore if it makes you feel worse' ...he's not replied yet (though its only been 45min lol).
I'm feeling a bit angry at him...I said the wrong thing, at the wrong time...espec' as he's been ill & already stressing lask wk about it all.
But I dont see how taking it out on me helps. I feel like telling him 'to stop moping, & bite the bullet, know his priorities & JUST TRY DOING IT...because we both know its the getting into it thats the barrier.
However, i cant really have a go at him now..because its right before his deadline, that would be totally unfair. But I just feel like withdrawing, & not speaking to him for a while...do u think I'm right for being annoyed? i can see we'r both kinda wrong, but it sounds like he's snapping at me?? what should I say/do?? ...do u think I gave the best apology? ..it doesn't help that I'v been feeling neglected recently anyway.
grr / :(
Secondly, it sounds like he is unable to make serious decisions. Is that the kind of person you want to be with? Is he really such a baby as not to be able to make up and act on his mind's choices? I doubt it, and what he is trying to do is to frustrate you so that he can express himself to as the cool kind balanced ScanMaker, when we know he is not.
So give him up and ignore the way these things are now going with him.
I think the best thing to do is give him some time. While I understand that you're upset that he took it out on you, sometimes its just natural that when a person is very upset and under pressure that he feels that the only thing he can do is take it out on someone and instead of asking you, "can I please rant about this?" it just came out like that and I'm sure he didn't mean it and it's probably just deadlines are getting to him.
Understand that despite him maybe having an 'easy' course that does not require a lot of research, it may still be a difficult job for a person. maybe it isn't to you but maybe it is to him and that maybe sometimes he just doesn't feel up to working on such things. Give him some time; this work may not seem like a big deal to you but to him it may be a lot bigger and a lot more difficult so read the signs before going on with these inside jokes; don't say it when you think he's too stressed, not just before a deadline and not when he's prone to being more upset (which is something that a lot of people feel while recovering from illness).
My advice, which has to do with why I asked the time where you are; I think the best thing to do at this poin
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